Reach

Where to start? First, as a friend, you are in a good position to recognize the first signs of trouble, such as:

  • Depressed Mood
  • No interest in activities
  • Changes in appetite
  • Changes in sleep patterns
  • Social withdrawal
  • Impulsive, reckless behavior
  • Uncontrollable anger
  • Increased alcohol or drug use
  • Anxiety and agitation
  • Fatigue
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Dramatic mood swings
  • Sense that life has no purpose
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • Feelings of hopelessness or being trapped
  • Thoughts of death or suicide

If you see these signs, don't ignore them. They are usually indicative of something more than everyday stress.

What now?

Reach out to your friend. Express your concern. Be direct and honest. Encourage getting help without sitting in judgment, acting shocked or suggesting that you have all the answers. And - above all - be available and listen. You may not understand what your friend is going through, but you can help him through it.

Learn the resources available so that you can provide your friend with options. Be persistent - because of the stigma associated with getting professional help for mental health concerns, your friend may not be willing to seek the help that he needs..Offer to call if he is reluctant, or offer to come to the first appointment. It is often the first step that is the hardest. Click here to learn about local resources. (link to resources section)

Take Care of Yourself

Helping a friend who is struggling with a mental health problem can be very stressful. Recognize your own personal limits and be aware of your own needs for staying healthy. Remember, you are not a mental health care provider, you are simply a supportive friend. It is not your responsibility to save someone; your only responsibility is to care. If you need help, don't hesitate to get it!

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